Thursday, August 29, 2013

I Finally Tied The Knot!!!!!!!!!

After  6 1/2 years Jeremiah and I finally got married!
I was so nervous an hour before the wedding. Nothing feel apart except that I forgot my bouquet! The only thing I am suppose to remember I forgot lol.
Good thing we have tons of friends who were there for us to go and get my bouquet for me so that I could get pictures. It saved the day!!!!!!!!!

SO my best friend Rich and younger brother Stu walked me halfway down the aisle. They were my comfort, they walked me to my dad (whom I met 24 hrs prior for the first time) he then walked me to my now husband. I love saying "husband" every chance I get :)

Even though I have two children (who are not Jeremiah's) I never wanted to marry their dads. Marriage wasn't for me. I watched many of my family get divorced and I didn't want to be apart of that. Which was a good moto since I am not with their fathers, and never married them. It was obvious that we were not good matches.

Jeremiah on the other hand, I knew after the first 6 months that he was the one for me. He is very old school, he respects me, never has called me a name. We even balance each other out. When I am sad, mad, or just upset he calms me down.

He is my true other half

<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

~Peace Out~

Friday, August 23, 2013

I have waited all my life for this day

Today is the day that I meet my father for the first time in my life in 32 years!!!

I have waited all my life for this day to come and I can't wait for it to happen in T-4 hours!!! 

I'm so excited and can't wait for them to get here. I was so nervous for it for a while, wondering what he's like, wondering if he's anything like me. 
But I came to the conclusion that it doesn't matter! He's coming here to be with me on my wedding day and that's enough devotion for me! 

The wedding is in T-28 hours!!! Eerkkkkkk

My long time high school friends Liz & Rusty came up from North Carolina to come to our wedding!! That's true friendship!! They are the friends who planned their wedding around our vacation so that we could be there for them!! 

My nephew is coming with his twins! My older sister is coming with her daughter too! My younger sister is coming with her kids, and my younger brother is coming with his girlfriend who I finally get to meet!!!

I'm feeling so blessed to have everyone in our lives!!

~Peace Out~

Wednesday, August 7, 2013

Facebook friend request

Facebook friend requesting is similar to dating. You need know if you've given it enough time before you send that request. 
How much time should you wait before sending that request for someone you just met? 
Should you be the one to send that request?
Once you send the request and they accept you how much time should you give before you start Facebook stalking them?

I often get request from people that I just met but I usually deny them. Don't judge me!
I don't usually friend request someone unless I have hung out with them several times and will continue to hang out with them. 

With that said people often get offended because I haven't friend requested them but at the same time they have not friend requested me. 

I use to be a facebookaholic until I got bored of it. I still go on every day just to keep up with the daily drama or post pics from my outings. I learned very quickly that when your "friends" break up with someone and blast it on fb don't say anything!!! Nada!! Because the very next day you'll see that they're back together as if nothing happened and now you look like the idiot. The break-up and get back together crap continues over and over. Just like blasting their horrible relationship all over fb and then the next day he's the perfect bf. I don't get that. I don't air my dirty laundry out on fb and if there is something wrong with my relationship it doesn't belong on fb. Again that's just me. 

~Peace Out~

Thursday, August 1, 2013

The Wedding Countdown

 I have been planning our wedding for quite some time now.  There has been times where I wasn't sure if getting married was a good idea. I have been with Jeremiah for almost 7 years and we have one 4 legged baby together but its different when marriage gets involved. Getting married doesn't change us really it just means its a documented relationship. However with that said I can't wait to call him my husband!!!

This wedding planning was stressful. Everyone told me it was going to be but come on how hard could it be? I have was full time to student, while working a full time job,  having two children, and taking care of the household. Well it was difficult and I lost track of what I wanted and who this wedding was for. When it came time to mail out the invitations I was more stressed out than ever before.

Then came more anxiety and confusion as I wasn't sure if the avenue we were taking was the correct one. I should say that we are very simple people and I wanted a very simple wedding however he wanted to do the traditional sit down. The place we choose was perfect in the fact that it wasn't over the top and was affordable. Now with that said came several issues with getting our contract, trying to get a meeting with the chef, and talking to the bar tender. I should have realized from the beginning when I had to hound them for the contract. I then started thinking of the amount we were spending and what were we getting out of it? After all would be said and done 10G later all we would walk away with is pictures. Then came the crying, depression, anxiety, and the eating (Im a stress eater). Then came one of my friends getting a new toy and that just put the cherry on the icing. I was beyond mad. I was mothereffin her from here to Sunday.

So what does a reasonable bride do? Say fuck it and change the whole thing!

That is exactly what we did and since that decision the rain lifted and the sun came out literally. That was another stresser was that Jeremiah is a roofer and with all the rain we were getting he wasn't working which meant that he wasn't going to have his half of the wedding money.

Once we switched it the stress lifted off both of us and we went with my original plan. Most who know us know that we aren't flashy people and why would we for one day act as if we were flashy? Weddings are suppose to be about the couple not to put on a show for those who attend.

Oh and I got myself a gift since we switched it  :)

A little off topic but
Based on marriage which is between man and woman the divorce rate is over half. So why is it said that those who's sexual preference is for the same sex is going to demean marriage? When we straight people can't keep out shit together? Those "Gays" who have life partners have been together longer than most marriages last.

Oh and now the Catholic Pope has said that he will hire any priest regardless of their sexual preference. Someone who is suppose to follow the Bible to  T has now stated that sexual preference is now negate. Amazing!

Strange views to a strange world

Have you ever felt like you don't belong in a world where your forced to belong?

Your told to do things like everyone else and when you don't your made to feel like you don't belong.

Your told to think a specific way and when you don't your looked upon as if your strange.

Your told that your beliefs are suppose to be like everyone else and when you don't your told your going to hell.

Your told to dress a specific way and if you don't then your picked on, bullied, and a target.

If you decide to go another path other than ones that are decided for you then your told that your a failure.

Why is it like that?

Why are we forced to believe or act like everyone else but told to be ourselves?

I like being me and like being around people like me, I like having my own beliefs and views, but I won't argue those because it always ends in a loud discussion because people don't believe the same as me. I keep to myself when it comes to those types of discussions.

I believe everyone has a right to their opinions and beliefs and shouldn't be made to feel different or targeted.